\u00a0As one listens to the old song, \u201cLog kehte hain, mein sharabi hoon\u201d, picturized on the legendary actor and beautifully yet painfully enacted by, Mr. Amitabh Bacchan, one cannot help but feel sympathy towards the character Vicky Kapoor, the boy, the man, who was forever felt neglected by his businessman (busy-ness) father Mr.Kapoor. While some might feel sympathy, there are others who might elicit the feeling of disgust, some might condone and shame the behaviour, while others might even label him, as a spoilt brat-someone privy to far too many choices, at their disposal with no caretaker.Let\u2019s reread the last bit, \u201csomeone privy to far too many choices, at their disposal with no caretaker\u201d; the point not to be neglected, not to be overlooked and to be paid attention to is NO CARETAKER.
Being a part of the Social Specie, it\u2019s our first physical and psychological requirement, to feel belonged, to feel connected, which makes us feel safe and secure; and if we understand our psychological (emotional and mental) requirements, which is inherently connected with our biology (body), we would understand, that humans go to great lengths to feel relevant, to not feel neglected- for the feeling of neglect instigates, feelings of abandonment, feelings of being unwanted, feelings of unworthiness, feelings of being a burden, feelings of undesirability etc. So when we say, \u201cEverything\u2019s fair in Love and War\u201d, war implying hatred, what we inherently are implying is that, \u2018Humans can tolerate love and bloodshed (hatred), what we cannot tolerate is INDIFFERENCE, for it puts a question on our Existence- the reason for our existence, if we have at any point in time experienced abandonment, feelings of being unwanted, feelings of unworthiness, feelings of being a burden, feelings of undesirability, feeling of being disconnected & felt unloved.
It is during these psychological wounds, which unfortunately are invisible and implicit, that our behaviours in the forms of many addictions right from alcohol, to nicotine, to opioids, to social media, to fame, to gambling, to porn, to sex, to power, to caffeine, to work, to food, to shopping, to relationships, reveal themselves; and it is during these times, that we need to ask:-
\u201cWhat is it that\u2019s hurting?\u201d
\u201cWhat is it that we are trying to fix?\u201d
\u201cWhat pain is it that we are trying to avoid by overdoing something else?\u201d \u201cWhat\u2019s the need that still needs to be met?\u201d
\u201cWhat\u2019s the meaning that I have given to my pain that has made no meaning so far, which has led me to distractions, rather than meaningful engagements?\u201d
Are we willing to take a look at this pain, not alone but together, are we willing to reconnect by seeking help, by speaking about it, by addressing it and not by repressing it, so that we are not enslaved to our unhealthy habits, but rather we become the choosers and creators of them?
There\u2019s no way we can change something, if we don\u2019t acknowledge and try and understand it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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